Thursday, February 28, 2013

Insults For Black Girls By Black Girls Part 2: Now We're Mad Because You're Not Dark





Ever since the news broke out back in 2012 that Afro-Latina actress Zoe Saldana would be playing Nina Simone in an upcoming biopic, Black women and our enthusiasts the world over have been in an uproar. In our view, light-skinned Zoe being selected to play the iconic "Black Classical Music" (Nina's words) singer, was just another case of Hollywood's white racist establishment asserting its dominance over our complexions and common sense. I have no problem confessing that I took issue with the idea of Zoe as Nina. It just wasn't right to me. Whenever someone asked me about it, my first complaint was that she's Dominican--what would she know of the Black American struggle? Plenty of American Blacks will tell you that Dominicans don't identify as Black, nor do they acknowledge their African roots, so in my mind I wondered what would make Zoe any different?

Then of course there was the (or what I thought to be) problem of her complexion. Zoe is roundabouts the same complexion as me, though I still contest that I'm not light-skinned, but that's neither here nor there. The fact is,  I didn't think that she was dark enough, and in many ways, "black enough" to play Nina. That was until I watched her pre-Oscar interview responding to criticism and b(l)acklash from "Sisters" like me.

"I'm doing it for my Sisters, and I'm doing it for my Brothers, and I don't care who tells me that I'm not this and I'm not that. I know who I am, and I know what Nina means to me... I did it all out of love. I did it out of Nina, out of love for my people, and who I am, and my pride of being a Black woman and a Latina woman and an American woman..."

We would all do well examine ourselves and our attitudes towards Blackness a little more carefully.
Who are we to say that Nina Simone, in all her greatness can only belong to certain type of Black women? As a matter of fact, in case you didn't know--Zoe was born in Jersey! So, like Nina, she's an American. Zoe also wholeheartedly acknowledges and takes pride in her Blackness, which is something far too many Black folk regardless of skin tone have difficulty doing in the first place; anyway, last time I checked, Nina loved her Blackness too. So why shouldn't a self loving Black woman play the role of another self loving Black woman?

It seems the answer and real reason for the controversy is that she's not "Black/dark enough." I had a discussion with one of my relatives whose perspective was something to the effect of: they [the Establishment] did not choose a dark complexioned actress, in order to cement in our minds the idea that Hershey kissed flesh with African features can never be beautiful. The sad fact is that regardless of their original goal, we find ourselves at odds with our Sisters once again--and for what? For an ideology that we did not create, but consistently perpetuate, and had no business accepting from jump. How can we have a true sisterhood with all Black women if we're too busy arguing over how Black this one is as opposed to another? What I can say for sure is that unless we can open our hearts and raise our consciousness regarding this, we might have lost yet another round to Ole' Massa and his partner in crime Willie Lynch. Let's check the sad score board and strive to do better. GO ZOE!

Ole' Massa      Black People
465                  150

Check out her response in its entirety here:


Zoe Saldana responds to Nina Simone biopic controversy






Thursday, February 7, 2013

Tips for Loving Your Body

#thatawkwardmomentwhen

We look in the mirror and decide we are having a tough time liking that which looks back at us.We've all been there and back again and you know what I'm talking about. I'm talking about with our bodies. Yes, even me--especially me. There have been days when right before I hop in the shower, I want to fall to pieces because I'm not shaped like her, her, or that other lady. But when the hot water hits me (most times) my insecurities go right down the drain, along with the grit of a long day working in the District. When I have those days that not even the best shower works, I've noticed that it's good for me to reflect on all 5 ft and ___ lbs of me, and then go about doing things that remind of me why it's so good to be in the skin I'm in.

Of course, these are just my own personal ideas and you are free to reject them. No harm. No foul.

1. Start from the inside out:

Your body is the house that God lives in. If you don't believe in God, well, the process of evolution/natural selection took several billion years to 'fashion' that which would become you. That's some pretty cool stuff to reflect on. Everything was in exactly the right place and the right way when you came into being. You are made up of the stuff of the Universe.

2. Functionality:

Remember that your body works for you. What could be more beautiful than something that can 'make it do what it do'?

3.  On the outside:

Someone, somewhere--perhaps closer than you realize, will love your body and find you irresistible.

4. Treat it

Visit a massage parlor (I'm not kidding). Touch always makes you feel good. Skilled massage therapists, like the one I visit, can make you feel so relaxed; hot stones plus massage oils smooth away anxiety, fear, stress, and all those other nasty things that keep us from seeing ourselves as who we truly are. Or you can go out and get some food that you enjoy or haven't tried before.

5.  Work it

Wear clothes that accentuate what you have and make you feel like you are the most interesting and fun person in the world. Before you know it, you'll realize it was never the clothes at all.

6.  Realize that you can't please everyone; not even Beyonce (or JANET JACKSON) can do that. Just because most people think one way about you, doesn't mean that everyone else does.

7. Everything is transient--well not everything

The body is only a temporary vehicle for a soul that is perfect, immortal, and worthy of love.


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